What is your Fetish?

I had a terrible headache today and a bit lazy because of the cold weather. And as I write this post, I am also watching kz on the bed playing. I wonder why he keeps on holding his feet and licking it and seems like; he likes the smell of his feet. So, I came near him and smell it also. lolz. Am I crazy? Smells wewe :)) kidding!

A word came across my mind and I remember my past job in the call center. I could say it was a top secret job. When we say call center job, it should be receiving calls from irate customers or it could be selling stuffs to the customers. (Agents like me knew this!) But the one I am handling was different kind of job. It never came into my mind that these things exist or this kind of job exists online. So anyway, to make things shorter. I wasn't selling books, credit card, or loans but I was receiving calls for appointment. What kind of appointment? Body massage and full service massage.

Sounds new? Pretty sure for those who are not into it :)) but you know what, the service cost so much. Body massage is $ 250 for 1 hour and $400-$500 for the full service for 40 minutes. The terms im using was kinda safe. hehehe but it's not what it is! It was something else. Most callers request for girls who can handle their fetishes.

Let’s be educational today. hehehe! Let’s talk about fetish in a broader aspect. First, what is FETISH?

1. An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices.
2. An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality.
3. Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.
4. An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.

hmmmp, sounds interesting right?! Now let me make it BROADER.

Let us talk about sexual fetish that my clients are asking. Usually, they are asking if the girls can wear stockings; dress up like a student, nurse, etc.

Everything we do as humans represent something hidden within. Our bodies are essentially ‘billboards for our minds’ and we outwardly express our ideas, thoughts and feeling in how we dress and appear to others. From ancient religious pageants through glossy period drama and all the way to the latest catwalk fashion show, we see costume based on sexual theatrics acted out with both naivety and carnality in equal measures.

Moral codes and sexual etiquette in a society are clearly represented in fashion where people adorn layer upon layer of symbolic meaning and cloth is cut to attract or divert attention to erogenous zones. One only has to think of the Victorians to see where such prudish people opted for the most restrictive, figure enhancing attire possible. It would be fair to say that much of the dress up aspect of fetish culture is an adventurous advancement on the British favorite - the ‘Vicars and Tarts’ party. Similarly, when Halloween comes around, adults seize the opportunity to dress up – with particular emphasis on sexually provocative characters and alter-egos.

Costume and style represent layers of psycho-social amour which, when peeled away, leave us feeling vulnerable and without identity. Dressing to take on a character, an alter-ego is at the heart of sexual role-play and makes up the glamorous image of modern fetish culture where weird and wonderful provocative costumes are proudly paraded. The common themes of their symbolic dressing reflects ideals of authority and innocence alike; from cops and nurses to clergymen and schoolgirls the costumes tend to represents varying potions of trust and power.

The best part I like most is the control. This is me. lolz. I am a very dominant person. I always like to be in control and if things don't come my way. It makes me mad. But anyway control could mean lot things. Whether through prayer, fasting, self-flagellation, domination, submission or direct sexual stimulation, fetish practitioners are typically exploring their personal boundaries of control - resulting in an altered state of mind which provides a sense of peace and balance.

Whether its gaining control or giving control through role play, object fixation or dress up, they are each exercising ideas of personal power. Some fetishists achieve their satisfaction through measured repetitive actions where as others open themselves up to the mercy and manipulation of others. In the now almost comical, archetypical circumstance of the high powered business executive who visits a dominatrix for chastisement and punishment (for being a naughty boy), it is often argued that he is alleviating the daily stress of being in control, by empowering someone else to take control away from him for a short time.

The fetish industry caters for a huge range of ‘power play’. From adult babies, ‘sissy boy’ transvestites and ‘foot worship’ to hair-cutting, role-playing, body piercing, boot-licking and BDSM ( that’s Bondage/Dominance/Submission/Sado-Masochism), Fetishists come in all shapes and sizes, genders and sexes, kinks and twists. The power dynamics are often quite complicated - empowered masters and mistresses are, ironically only in charge because their ‘slaves’ are willingly allowing them to be so. ‘Safe words’ are typically used to cut short any activity that has gone too far for the recipient and thus, the roles of control are often illusory.

The fetish world also makes a point of emphasizing the importance of consent and here lies its true power – everyone is equal regardless of their ‘role’.

In bondage, some are attracted to the idea of restraint – including bodily suspension – others, are attracted to the aesthetics of the complicated ‘rope work’ (often known as shibari) and is considered an art-form.

So, what is your FETISH? :D